On Negative Thoughts and Worry...

The difference in a negative and positive man is simply how they view things. A positive man falls out of a tree and he says, "I'll be more careful in this tree." and goes back up. A negative man falls out of the same tree and says, "This tree is not for climbing." and walks away. The same thing happened but the interpretation is what made everything. 

It is much easier to be negative and pessimistic in this world we live in. But I wager you this. There is no such thing as negativity. The first man will not fall out of the tree again. (Or if he does he will not fall in the same place.) The second man will not fall out of that tree again either. Both men simply changed their actions to prevent making the same mistake again. Both men simply reacted to preserve themselves. There is no negativity in that.

Look at your thoughts this way. The thoughts that say you'll fail. The thoughts that claim you're a loser. Are they really negative? Or are they just trying to prevent you from making some kind of mistake? Are they saying something in a way that you don't understand? 

Ask the voice that calls you a loser why it says what it says. You'll often find it has a reason for doing so. It just found the worst way possible to express it to you. You have to dig deeper into your mind to find out why you've created these thoughts. And the most effective way to do that is by following "negative" patterns of thoughts and questioning them.

You'll often find that like a child your brain had good intentions behind the bad outcome it created.. And do we scold a child for not knowing how to express itself? Or do we teach them until they gradually get better?

As hard as it may be to accept this, there is no such thing as a "negative" thought. 

The only "negative" that exists is the natural force that repels positivity. So why create negativity in our heads by becoming hostile towards our own thoughts?

So just for today, let us not repel the positive by labeling our thoughts as negative. And instead let's address them and ask why they are and how they came to be.

Shalom.

What Is This Place?

I reckon that since you've stumbled upon this blog and have been hopefully moved (or angered) by something here, you're probably wondering "Who is this guy?"  and "What is the meaning of all this?" So I thought that I'd write this as an answer to those questions and an introduction to this blog in general.



I'm Joe, a college student majoring in cyber-security and minoring in creative writing. I write poetry and what I'd call poor man's philosophy.

I'm not a part of any religion, yet I have no problem with them so long as they treat their members and others fairly. However, I am at least a little bit spiritual. I pray over my food and meditate daily. I do believe that there are things out there that we cannot grasp, but I do not deny established science unless given a good reason to.

And when it comes to others, I don’t care what you believe as long as it doesn't hurt you or anyone else.

I record two podcasts (that are alive but not necessarily well) and run another blog which I update daily. My other blog is a personal journal with pop culture references and jokes sprinkled in for variety. But it's read by at least nine people daily. I figured if I could share something more substantial with just half that amount of people at the same rate, I'd be making a positive change in the world.

That said, the reason I started this blog is simple. I want to share my opinions and findings on the world, and the human condition with the intention of positively affecting others.

Even if I only reach one person a week, I'll still be making a change in the world.

An indeed minute, but positive change.

And that's what I'm here for...

A Few Words On Pornography Addiction (No-Fap)

I just ended a seventeen day No-Fap streak. I thought peaking would allow me to cheat the system but unfortunately I went insane with orgasmic vigor and spilled milk all over the place. So yeah, peaking is indeed relapsing and you should avoid it. 

... if that wasn't already clear. Because it kind of was. I really relapsed like ten days ago if we're bein real here.

I'm still contemplating whether the orgasmic event will affect the way I am today and next week. I've come to the conclusion that I do not know...

 I did get something very nice out of this experience though. So it wasn't all for nut - I mean naught. Before I came up here to work, I pulled up a piece I wrote about No Fap during the last couple of days of my first streak. It was inspiring. It actually inspired me to fess up to my addiction on Twitter. (But honestly no one I know in real life follow me on Twitter so I didn't actually fess up to shit.) 

The writing really came from a place where you could tell I knew the nature of pornography addiction and how to defeat it. 

The shiniest gem I found in the writing was this - "You don't defeat addiction by sitting around thinking that you will. You beat addiction by doing all sorts of other things that you aren't addicted to. You beat addiction by becoming so busy that you have no time to indulge it's woes. 

And you become prey to addiction by sitting around thinking that you're stronger than it instead of actively fighting it. Let me tell you something. That's addiction whispering in your ear. 

It has you right where it wants you.

 In my case sitting around aimlessly browsing memes in the bathroom thinking "I can fight these urges." is how it always starts. Little do I know that I'm playing right into my addiction's hands by unnecessarily bringing the phone into the bathroom.

You have to fight addiction with EVERYTHING within you if you want to defeat it."

I feel like I somehow knew a lot more back then than I do right now about No-Fap. This just goes to show that sometimes when we seek to find answers on the outside, we already have the answers within ourselves.

We just have to be willing to search hard enough.

Shalom.